I was raped when I was in college at the University of Iowa. At the time, I did not consider it rape because I had been drinking and went into his dorm room with him so I thought it was my fault. However, when I told him to stop, he did not, even though he knew I wanted him to stop. I knew I could not break away at that point in time. He was too strong for me. He forced himself on me. For years, I did not consider that rape. I blamed myself. I thought I asked for it. Even today, many years later, I have to remind myself that if it had been the other way around and he told me to stop, I would have stopped. He did not. He raped me.